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Should Anti-Social People Use Facebook?

Over the last few months, I talked with my family a few times about deleting my Facebook author page and was met with absolutely no support. I seem to have a problem with making decisions. I worry a lot about stupid stuff and rather I’m making the right decision or not. It’s like when I’m between projects, I am ultimately the only one who can decide what to work on next, because I am the one doing the writing.

But the same holds true for literally everything else in my life. I am the only one who can make decisions for myself, and the longer it takes me to make a decision, the more I annoy the crap out of nearly everyone I know.

The problem with my Facebook page is that it exists, therefore I feel obligated to post something “interesting” on it. Except, I don’t want to. I don’t want to pretend like I have something interesting to say. Most of the time I don’t. Ask my journal. I tried journaling everyday for a month, and that resulted in entries that literally read like this: (actual excerpt from 2.17.19) “I did nothing again today except nap, pick up my contacts, & watch movies. And I was confused as to why I had four boxes in the box because I forgot I need one box for each eye.” (It was 2:15 a.m. – GO TO BED, KRYSTAL, DAMN!)

Also, when did I take a nap? I take probably three naps a year.

Anyway, it’s like, sure, I don’t tweet a lot, but I like Twitter. I like Instagram. So I lurk and see what other people are doing, and sometimes I remember that I exist and say something as well. At the same time, I still don’t get the point. If I’m talking to someone, yes. But what am I trying to accomplish by tweeting my thoughts at no one?

I don’t use, or like, Facebook outside of my groups, which are the actual only reason I log onto Facebook at all. If I post on my timeline twice in one year, I’ve lost my mind. I don’t like to talk about what I’m doing. Or rather, the nothing that I’m doing.

I read an article before I published my first book that said we should only do the social media platforms that we like for this very reason. If we feel forced to use something, it’s going to show. Then this chick on YouTube, who will remain nameless because she is crazy in a bad way, said to have one anyway for the people who love Facebook, and she suggested just reposting stuff from other places, like Instagram.

Sure. But if you’re not regularly engaging with people who like your page, then less and less people see your content, until you are rendered actually invisible. Buffy the Vampire Slayer had an episode about someone who was rendered invisible from being excessively ignored – literally my worst fear. It’s triggering.

Social media is about having a conversation with people. It’s not about selling something. The only reason to have a Facebook page is to have a conversation about stuff with people who are already on Facebook and already like you. In order to have good engagement on a Facebook page, you have to regularly post content people are interested in, and they show that interest by liking, commenting on, and sharing your posts, very similarly to how YouTube, Instagram, and Twitter work. It’s why the same people engage with your posts all the time. Content you engage with is pushed to the top, and content you don’t engage with is suppressed. No one scrolls super far down their feeds, and who cares about Aunt Sally’s gnome collection anyway? (I love gnomes, by the way.)

But like, if someone wants to talk to me, they can post a comment here or tweet at me or send me a message on Instagram or even freaking email me. Who is on Facebook that I need to be available to talk to who can’t reach me some other way?

The answer is NO ONE. If someone wants to reach me, they can. I’m not less available by not being on Facebook.

I was going to post this “interesting” foray into my social media ineptness and then ask for your advice, but I realized, I was just keeping myself stuck in this circle of indecision. It’s like when I’m trying to settle on a project, I ask for advice because I want someone to tell me that it’s okay to do what I want. And it’s like, what the eff?

As it stands, I’m currently deciding to leave the page up. However, I’m never going to force myself to be sociable, which will eventually render the page digital clutter. Sometimes I just want to simplify my life! But I guess if I stop stressing myself about it, it won’t cause me any stress? 😛 Thoughts? ^_^

Books & Stories & Rambles – July Edition

This month marks the anniversary of my first ever finished “novel.” And every year around this time, I like to reflect. So, I’ve come to the realization that I do not have time to get feedback on “Legion” before Pitch Wars – especially considering the fact that I’ve barely started editing and by barely, I mean,… Continue Reading